The Beginning

The beginning of anything is the hardest for me. To not know what will happen or if I will make the right choices can be almost paralyzing. At least it used to be.

I’ve come to realize that the first step on any path is one of self love.  Lao Tzu tells us that, ” the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” I say that the first step is always the same, loving yourself where you are.

You see, if you can love yourself wherever you are, the outcome of the journey becomes less important. That is not to say that you should be satisfied where you are and never take the second step of your journey. In fact the opposite is true. In loving yourself you gain the confidence to try any and everything you want to. The difference lies in the fact that if you do fail you will still be okay. You will not fall apart berating yourself. Your pride may be hurt but you can easily learn from the experience, adjust and try again or release and move on to the next thing.

When we love ourselves we become free. We are no longer tied down by the opinions and expectations of others. Because we love ourselves we are confident in the decisions we make and we make decisions based on what we truly want rather than what we think will please another.  We begin to choose more wisely the people we allow into our lives and more freely release those who no longer serve us.

Hopefully you can see the importance of self love. Hopefully you sincerely do love yourself. Many of us never even give a second thought as to how we feel about who we are.  I have an exercise for you, even the most confident of you. You’ve made it this far for a reason so humor me. Take a moment and look at yourself in the mirror. Really look at yourself and notice what comes up. Stare into your eyes and acknowledge the person looking back at you. Now, say I love you. I’m not kidding, stop reading and go find a mirror….I’ll wait.

How did that feel? Were you able to  hold eye contact with yourself? Did you believe you when you said I love you? There are no right or wrong answers only realities about how you feel about yourself. If you fell in love all over again while staring into your eyes, congratulations! Now go conquer the world. On the other hand, if you couldn’t look at yourself or something negative came up, it’s still okay. It’s you and you can change you. Learn to love you so you too can conquer the world.